DrRoberta Dear Dr. Roberta,
I am 28 years old and need companionship. There is a guy at work who has been flirting with me and I know he would ask me out if I gave him the chance. But, in the past I’ve been hurt, even raped once, and I am afraid to go further with this. He seems so nice. Do you think he’d more trustworthy if I told him about my past.
Lonely, Arkansas
Dear Lonely,
I think the concern is not his trustworthiness, but your ability to trust. You’d be best off speaking not to him but to a counselor. Talking about the rape and other betrayals and traumas will help you get ready for a new relationship. Good luck.
– Dr. Roberta
