Dear Dr. Roberta,
My boyfriend wants to marry me but I am unsure because he has 6 kids and even though they are grown they take up all his time and money. What should I do?
Unsure, Nevada
Dear Unsure,
You should decide if you love him. If you do love him and do want to spend the rest of your life with him, then together you will decide how much time and money go to the kids. If he is interested in making a life with you he’ll be sure there is enough time and money for you, too. Actually work out a budget with pencil and paper and see if he can stick to it before you get married. Also work out a time schedule and see if he can stick to it, too. If he can’t stick to money and time management before you get married, he will not do so after the wedding, either.
– Dr. Roberta