DrRoberta Dear Dr. Roberta:
I’m in love with a man who’s fourteen years older than I am. He tells me that he’s no good for me and I should find somebody else. I know that he’s really a good man and he just doesn’t know that he’s worthy. He always puts himself down, and his mother puts him down and insults him, too. I want to build him up and I want to marry him. He insists that he’s not a good person and I should stay away from him. What should I do?
In Love
Dear In Love:
You should listen to him. It’s not your job to change his self-image. He’s telling you the truth about how he feels about himself. It’s very unfortunate, but it’s not your responsibility. Save your interest in rescue work for a job or a pet, and look for a man who’s interested in getting married.
-Dr. Roberta
